some unimaginably rapey, entitled, horrible, abusive dude created a spreadsheet documenting his wife rejecting his sexual advances, and then he sent it to her in an email before she went on a trip (check out the wife’s original post on Reddit but fair warning: the comments are about as disgusting as you’d expect from that trash heap of a website)I SAW THIS ON A DIFFERENT WEBSITE
THE COMMENTS SAID THINGS LIKE “THE WOMAN SHOULD KNOW MEN NEED SEX” “HER EXCUSES ARE BULLSHIT, WHEN DOES WATCHING A MOVIE EXCUSE NOT GIVING YOUR MAN SOME LOVING.” “HE DESERVES SOME SEX, SHE CANT EXPECT HIM TO JUST GO WITHOUT IT BC SHE DOESNT WANT TO GIVE HIM IT.” “IT DOESNT MATTER WHETHER SHE WANTED IT OR NOT, RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT GIVE AND TAKE AND SHE NEEDS TO LEARN TO GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS” I ACTUALLY NEARLY VOMITTED BC PEOPLE LIKE THAT ARE SO GROSS YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO SEX AND TBH I WOULDNT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH A GUY SO CHILDISH AND DEMANDING. ALSO CAN THE WHOLE “MEN NEED SEX, MEN CANT CONTROL THEIR URGES” FUCKING STOP
When people say “it’s about give and take, she needs to give him what he wants even if she doesn’t, ” they’re literally saying “let him rape her.” Rape is the absence of consent. All it takes is ignoring her no. People disgust me sometimes.
And her “excuses” (reasons) are solid. Any reason to say no is solid. And this guy is so entitled and creepy. She’s busy watching her show or just got back from the gym and you feel like you’re owed her body? Right then? Fuck you, dude. She has her own life.
she doesn’t need a fucking excuse.
I hope she prints this out and gives it to a divorce attorney.
I forgot being anti porn and respecting women as human beings is controversial opinion
Slutshaming is such a bullshit term.
She’s not a fucking slut, she’s a woman and by saying “don’t slutshame her” you are literally saying “yeah she’s a slut but don’t say anything”
NO WOMAN IS A SLUT
STOP SAYING SLUTSHAMING NOW
i see lucy as a racist film that plays on negative stereotypes while hiding behind the cover of (white) feminism.
all this film has done is switch out the white man for a white woman. it’s still a film about a white person getting violated by the evil poc, then gaining power and wiping them out.
here’s 2 of my favourite scenes from the trailer:
from top to left to right:
KEEP CLEAN 保持清潔，APPLE 蘋果，ONION 洋蔥，GRAPE 葡萄，CHAIR 椅子，TOMATO 番茄
traditional chinese is an actual written language used by millions of people, not symbols to be thrown around at the whim of set designers because they look cool and idk, serves to create a menacing asian atmosphere. this is so disrespectful, and made even worse by the fact that this film in set it taipei, taiwan where the official written language is traditional chinese.
it doesn’t matter that this film caters to a primarily “white” audience who won’t be able to read it, the language and culture of taiwan isn’t something for you to twist and use as you deem fit because it’s “exotic.”
lucy shoots a guy for not being able to speak english.
she l i t e r a l l y shoots this taiwanese taxi driver, in taiwan for not being able to speak english. she’s in taipei and she’s shooting people as they are of no use to her because they don’t speak english.
just think about the sort of message that’s sending out. she’s not being “bad-ass strong female character who takes no shit,” she’s saying that english is useful and better. this is the type of harmful ideology that stretches all the way back from when western countries were colonising and forcing their language and customs on other countries.
let me explain with a real life example. i was born in new zealand to two taiwanese parents. i am fluent in english, but mandarin is conversational at best. my friends in taiwan say that i am “so lucky” to speak fluent english, when they are fluent in mandarin and their english level is no worse than my mandarin. they tell me that they want to perfect their english but in the same breath tell me that mandarin isn’t worth perfecting because i have english and that’s “enough”. they also tell me how pretty my white friends are when they see pictures.
this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that they’ve grown up buying into. it honestly hurts and frustrates me that they belittle their own culture like this, honestly believing that the western world is superior. this is the type of neo imperialism ideology that this film (hopefully unintentionally) promotes: white people are better and will save the day.
if they wanted to film a movie about a white women getting back at those who had violated her, why not film it in a western country? if they wanted to film it in taiwan, why not find an asian lead actress?
i do agree that we need more women protagonists in action/superhero movies, but not like this. its not okay that the female lead needs to be kidnapped and have her body cut open without her consent in order to gain her powers, and those said those powers do not make any of this racist bullshit okay.
i am just so tired and angry of poc always being brushed off to the side as either props or villains in mainstream media.
as a poc, it’s so frustrating to see that the of the standard of beauty still white women when we live in multi-cultural societies and a diverse world.
feminism is about equality. a film in which poc are presented as evil and inferior before being killed off by a superior white woman does not promote equality.
-You cannot be sexist toward men. Sexism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against men but you CANNOT be sexist toward them.
-You cannot be racist towards white people. Racism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against white people but you CANNOT be racist toward them.
This is not difficult.
Few hours before his execution, Ted Bundy talked about the murders and the power of the addiction to pornography. He took responsibility for his actions but he blamed the pornography as a key factor in the killings.
"I’m no social scientist, and I don’t pretend to believe what John Q. Citizen thinks about this, but I’ve lived in prison for a long time now, and I’ve met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence just like me, and without exception, every one of them was deeply involved in pornography."
Straight from the fucking horse’s mouth.
i can’t deal with people who settle on “it’s their choice guys it’s their choice” as their political ideology/general outlook on life and then just cease all analysis whatsoever how old are you omg
literally the most beautiful thing that ive ever watched
You cannot be anti-capitalist and “pro-sex work”. Prostitution and pornography are the sociopathic logic of capitalism taken to the extreme.
She did recently say “this is why I stay away from balls” in reference to her sexuality in an MTV Movie Awards promo. I mean, as if women with balls don’t exist…
This is not problematic. A woman saying she wants to stay away from balls isn’t problematic. A lesbian that doesn’t want anything to do with penies isn’t “problematic,” she’s a fucking LESBIAN.
This “lesbians must all be okay with penises and sleeping with penises otherwise it’s ~problematic~” is rape apologist bullshit. Stop guilt-tripping and terrorizing women into sleeping with people just because it hurts their fucking feelings, my GOD you genderists sound JUST like MRAs.
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